I’m Frankly Tired of the Same Old Song and Dance
Look, I’ve been a Catholic my whole life. Baptized at St. Mary’s in Chicago, confirmed at the cathedral downtown, and I’ve sat in more pews than I can count. But honestly? I’m tired. Tired of the same old routines, tired of the whispers, tired of the feeling that we’re all just going through the motions.
About three months ago, I was at Mass on a Sunday—let’s say it was at St. Joseph’s—and I looked around. The same faces, the same hollow expressions. I turned to my friend, let’s call him Marcus, and said, “Marcus, what are we even doing here?” He just shrugged. Which… yeah. Fair enough.
We’re Not Talking About the Real Stuff
Here’s the thing: we spend alot of time talking about the aquisition of new hymnals or the color of the new altar cloths. But we never talk about the real stuff. The stuff that matters. Like why young people are leaving in droves. Like why the pews are half-empty. Like why we’re all so damn uncomfortable talking about faith outside of church.
I had coffee with a colleague named Dave last Tuesday. We were at that little place on 5th, you know the one? Anyway, he told me something that stuck with me. “Frank,” he said, “we’re so focused on keeping up appearances that we’ve forgotten how to be real.” And he’s right. We’re so busy making sure everything looks perfect that we’ve lost sight of what’s actually important.
And look, I get it. Change is hard. Committment is hard. But we can’t keep doing the same thing and expecting different results. It’s just… yeah. It’s not gonna work.
Let’s Talk About the Elephant in the Room
We need to talk about the elephant in the room. The one that no one wants to acknowledge. The one that’s making us all uncomfortable. The one that’s driving people away.
I’m not sure but I think it’s the lack of authenticity. We’re so focused on being “good Catholics” that we’ve forgotten how to be human. We’re so busy following the rules that we’ve lost sight of the spirit behind them.
I remember when I was younger, my mom used to say, “Faith isn’t about being perfect, it’s about being real.” And she was right. But somewhere along the way, we’ve forgotten that. We’ve become so focused on looking the part that we’ve lost the ability to be the part.
And it’s not just me saying this. I’ve talked to people—lots of people—and they all say the same thing. We need to be more real. More authentic. More human.
What Are We Gonna Do About It?
So what are we gonna do about it? How do we fix this? I’m not sure I have all the answers, but I know where to start.
First, we need to stop being afraid of the tough conversations. We need to talk about the stuff that makes us uncomfortable. We need to acknowledge the elephant in the room and deal with it head-on.
Second, we need to be more real with each other. We need to stop pretending that everything is perfect. We need to admit that we’re struggling, that we’re flawed, that we’re human.
And third, we need to start living our faith outside of church. We need to start talking about it with our friends, our family, our colleagues. We need to start making it a part of our daily lives, not just something we do on Sundays.
I know, I know. It’s easier said than done. But look, if we’re gonna make a change, we need to start somewhere. And this is as good a place as any.
A Tangent: Why Are We So Bad at Talking About Money?
Speaking of tough conversations, why are we so bad at talking about money? I mean, honestly, it’s like we’re all afraid that if we mention the word “tithe” out loud, the church is gonna crumble into dust. But here’s the thing: money is a part of life. And if we’re gonna be real with each other, we need to be real about money too.
I remember a conversation I had with a priest once. Let’s call him Father O’Malley. I asked him, “Father, why don’t we talk about money more?” And he said, “Because it’s complicated, Frank. It’s physicaly and spiritually complicated.” Which, okay, fair point. But we can’t keep avoiding the topic. We need to find a way to talk about it in a way that’s honest and open and, you know, not terrifying.
And look, I’m not saying we need to start talking about our bank balances during the homily. But we need to find a way to make money a part of the conversation. Because if we’re not talking about it, we’re not being real. And if we’re not being real, what are we even doing here?
Enough With the Fake Smiles
I’m done with the fake smiles. I’m done with the pretenses. I’m done with the hollow greetings and the forced laughter. I want real. I want authentic. I want human.
And I think—no, I know—that there are alot of people out there who feel the same way. Who are tired of the same old song and dance. Who are ready for something real. Something authentic. Something human.
So let’s start there. Let’s start with the tough conversations. Let’s start with the real stuff. Let’s start with the stuff that matters. Because if we’re gonna make a change, we need to start somewhere. And this is as good a place as any.
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Anyway, that’s enough from me. I’m gonna go find a quiet place and think about all this. Maybe I’ll see you at Mass next Sunday. Or maybe I’ll see you out in the world, living your faith in a way that’s real and authentic and human. Either way, I’m gonna be there. And I hope you will too.
About the Author: Frank Thompson has been a Catholic for as long as he can remember. He’s a writer, a thinker, and a bit of a troublemaker. He lives in Chicago with his wife and three kids, and he’s always up for a good conversation about faith, life, and everything in between.
